One of the more rewarding things that I get to do fairly often as a disciplinarian is give somebody their very first real spanking. Sometimes, new spankees have dabbled with friends or partners, sometimes, they’ve met non-spankos for play and not gotten what they needed and sometimes, they’ve never been over a man’s knee or received a spanking of any sort. New spankees are often nervous and sometimes put off contacting me because of various, understandable concerns.
The post below was written by a woman that contacted me a while back to talk about a possible session. Recently, we met in beautiful country hotel, just outside of Edinburgh for a fantastic first session. These are her thoughts…
The run up:
For context I have never knowingly approached a disciplinarian or a person of that ilk in my life and I had no real knowledge of how to discover one. This was until a few months ago when I was talking to my new friend and during a conversation he matter-of-factly told me about his own kinks. I shared my own musings and he recommended I contact Adultwork, a website for all sorts of adult services where I apparently might find what I was looking for. So, emboldened by my friend’s encouragement I promptly did my research, but instead of a venue in Glasgow I found a webpage of a disciplinarian in Edinburgh. I was instantly compelled.
I felt this route provided a more organic introduction as opposed to delving into the brobdingnagian world of adult services, i.e. I was permitted direct, personal access to a disciplinarian which was much less daunting for a Vanilla venturing into the extraordinary and daunting universe of fetishes and kink. It would likely have been too nerve-wracking, less than ideal, not to have direct contact or a lead up conversation before a session. Plus, it allowed me time to do important due diligence.
David was contacted via WhatsApp and a simple enquiry was made about his webpage. David promptly messaged back and asked to arrange a video call. This was a wee bit nerve-wracking, it was becoming real, but I was confident on what I wanted so ventured forth and soon found out he at least appeared normal, was pleasingly handsome and not a fantasy-indulging catfish-timewaster.
During the call David was conservative while I was more nervous. I was honest with my reasons for contacting and my undetermined musings, so we discussed how some sessions can start and play out to give me an idea whilst not scaring me off. By virtue of this insight, I realised that I did in fact have an idea of how I wanted to play which was rather invigorating and so further fuelled my tenacity to follow through.
My circumstances dictated making a date approximately a month in advance (which is advisable for any first meeting) and during this time I could contact him on WhatsApp. Naturally, I contacted him, asking the questions I needed to ask and the ones I was nervous of asking. David responded with attentiveness, consideration and expert professionalism on all of my queries. Moreover, he was very tactful and perceptive with his own questions to ensure I was comfortable, which permitted him to establish a comfortable headspace and explore my needs. This all helped to determine the best way for us to play, to crucially establish consent, and ultimatley to ensure my needs are met and I am satisfied with the outcome.
The spanking:
Respectfully, I will go into less detail but what I must first convey is that there have been too few times in my life where I have been so impressed by the demonstration of understanding, attentiveness, respect of boundaries and predetermined consent within an undeniably sensorial but sensitive situation. At no point did my gut instinct tell me to run, and I assure you it has kept me safe thus far as an adult, any iota of a flutter and I would have left, I trust it implicitly. Ultimatley this trust benefitted David as it allowed me to completely immerse myself into full submission for him which was brand new to me and all encompassing – and contradictive to assumptions – was an empowering experience.
The spanking itself and the sensations of the implements were as thorough and testing of my limits as I requested. Furthermore, David knew when enough was enough without me needing to cut it short, which demonstrated his focus, attention and understanding of my needs and my vested trust. Last but not least, and by now I am certain I do not need to say, but for the benefit of doubt for anyone wondering, there were breaks, it wasn’t a constant barrage of relentless strikes, I was looked after before, during and checked in on after the event to ensure I was happy, to address any questions, to help mitigate any low mood after the high of the endorphins had eventually ebbed away, and again, to demonstrate decency.
It is safe to say if you are unsure/hesitant about seeking a disciplinarain out to satisfy a spanking fantasy because of consent, safety or wellbeing concerns, you can take any such concern out of the equation and endeavour to meet your needs with David. He is a good egg.
