Why Spanking?
There are many reasons why people want -or need- to be spanked
If you’re reading this, the chances are that you’ve at least thought about being spanked. If you’re new to physical discipline, you may be wondering what it is that draws you to it. It’s possible you may even be a little embarrassed or worried about how to reconcile it, perhaps you’re an experienced spankee in search of a safe way to get your needs met. Whatever your level of experience, you deserve the opportunity to explore your interests on your own terms.
Motivations for wanting to be disciplined, are hugely varied. Some people think of spankings as punitive, an act of contrition, or perhaps attrition for something they feel guilty about, even if it was outside of their control. Then there are those who get a much needed release from spanking that helps them manage stress, or better deal with challenges in their lives. For others, spanking feels like a fun diversion, a little escapism from the world, and a chance to live out a fantasy. There’s no right or wrong reason to want to be spanked.
Below are just some of the motivations that I’ve heard from women that I’ve spanked over the years. Whether you identify with any of the descriptions below, or your relationship with spanking is different again, if you choose to contact me, you can be certain of an understanding and discrete ear.
Disciplinary spankings
Do you struggle with procrastination? Not engaging in self care? Do you need motivation to get something done, or to stop doing something you shouldn’t? Perhaps you feel guilty about something that you may or may not have had any control over.
I’ve disciplined many women over the years and can attest to the fact that when done with care, and with a focus on teaching self-discipline, rather than simply imposing a punishment, spankings can help keep you on track at work or with your studies, and even help with lifestyle issues like exercise, eating habits, and sleep schedules. Sessions can be one-offs, or a series of meetings in which we agree on how you will be held accountable, how we’ll monitor your progress and the levels of consequences you’ll receive if you fall short in your goals.
Discipline sessions don’t have to be harsh or overly painful, but they can be if you feel that’s what you need. Whether you’re new to spanking and just want to try a gentle hand spanking, or an experienced spanko looking for something more intense, sessions will always be tailored to your needs, desires and limits.
Funishment spankings
If your interest is more about the sensation of being spanked, wanting to feel submissive, or is rooted in fantasy, then that’s okay too.
Many people fantasise about and enjoy the sensations of a firm hand, paddle, or even cane against their bottoms. If that’s you then don’t worry, you’re not alone. I can help you explore those feelings in a safe environment.
While many people get turned-on from being spanked, and sessions can feel very erotic, sessions do not include sex.
Funishment spankings
If your interest is more about the sensation of being spanked, wanting to feel submissive, or is rooted in fantasy, then that’s okay too.
Many people fantasise about and enjoy the sensations of a firm hand, paddle, or even cane against their bottoms. If that’s you then don’t worry, you’re not alone. I can help you explore those feelings in a safe environment.
While many people get turned-on from being spanked, and sessions can feel very erotic, sessions do not include sex.
Role-play and fantasy
Have you fantasised about being called to the boss’ or headmaster’s office? Ever eyed up a maid’s outfit in the window of Anne Summer’s and had intrusive thoughts about going over ‘master’s knee’?
Perhaps you want to try acting out your naughty thoughts and fantasies of having your bottom bared and while you plead for ‘sir’ to be gentle.
You may be a seasoned role-player, or new to it and maybe even a bit shy about playing pretend. Don’t worry, whatever is on your mind, I’d love to hear about it and be more than happy to make your fantasy feel almost real.
Stress relief
I am not a trained mental health professional and spankings should never take the place of mental health services like counselling.
That said, I’ve spanked many women over the years who find spanking to be therapeutic, and there’s plenty of evidence to support that it can. Perhaps it’s to do with the release of adrenaline and endorphins, maybe it’s the escapism, or simply that being spanked demands your entire attention, blocking out the rest of the world for a while.
However it works, there are many people who use spanking to relieve stress or anxiety in the same way that some people go for a run, or book a massage. If that’s you, drop me an email and let’s talk about what might help you.