Frequently Asked Questions

Do people really come to disciplinarians to help them change their behaviour?

Yes, they absolutely do and I’ve given more than my fair share of disciplinary spankings. I think what’s often misunderstood is that consensual discipline works very differently to the type of non-consensual spanking that used to be common in homes and schools. Consensual discipline works similarly to therapeutic spankings but are more focused on specific behavioural issues like procrastination or bad habits, and the underlying issues causing them. I’ve written a blog post about therapeutic spanking here.

To be clear, I find non-consensual corporal punishment to be abhorrent, no matter who it’s being used on.

I’m curious about spanking, but I’m worried it’ll hurt too much. Do spankings have to be hard?

That really depends on you. Prior to our first session, we’ll discuss what you’re looking for, your interests and your limits. Each session will be tailored to you and your limits will always be respected. If you want a gentle introduction to spanking to see if you like it, just say so and that’s what will happen.

How long will a typical session last and how will it go?

Again, there’s a lot of flexibility here and it will depend on what you’re looking for. However, as a general rule, a session may last an hour to 90 minutes. Sessions are never rushed and there is time beforehand for a chat, which will include going over what you’re looking for and making sure we’re on the same page. There will also be time after the spanking to talk about how the session went for you, and for any aftercare needed. For disciplinary or therapeutic spankings, the time before and after the spanking can be used to discuss why you’re being spanked, what you want to get out of the session and your goals moving forward.

Is that photo on your homepage you spanking somebody?

Yes, it is. I don’t generally photograph spankees. I understand that in many cases privacy is extremely important. The woman over my knee in that photo is K, she’s a long-time spankee of mine and volunteered to model for the site.

Does it matter what I wear when I visit?

Not at all. Wear whatever you’re comfortable with.

Do I have to take my clothes off or be spanked on my bare bottom?

No, you don’t. When we discuss your session, I’ll ask you how comfortable you are removing clothing or having things lowered or removed. There’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to clothing and spanking. I’ve given spankings where the spankee has remained either almost or completely dressed.

Do you do role-play?

If that’s what you’d like to do, absolutely. I wrote a blog post about role-play here.

I want to be spanked, but I also want ‘X’, will you do it?

That depends on what it is. If it’s something that you might think of as associated with spanking, like corner-time, then the answer will probably be yes. If it’s outside of my area of expertise or something I don’t enjoy, then I’ll politely decline. I’m open minded, and have been doing this a long time, there’s almost certainly nothing you could ask about that would shock me. I don’t judge, so if in doubt, just ask.

Are you a dominant or a master?

I’m neither of those things. As a disciplinarian, I focus on spanking for behaviour modification, discipline, role-play, or just for fun. If you’re looking for something I don’t provide, I can point you in the general direction of the kink community in Edinburgh. There’s a lot of diversity in the community so you’ll likely find what you’re looking for.

What should I call you?

Initially, please just call me David. During spanking sessions, it’s either David, or sir if you would like. Please don’t call me master, or daddy.